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What if Couples Invested the Same Amount of Time, Energy, & Money into Having Children As They Did Their Wedding

Feb 02, 2024

Posted by: Kiana Asherah

Let me ask you something...


Why is it normalized to spend $15,000, $20,000, $30,000, $100,000+ on a wedding?


Many women go all out to physically prepare for their wedding day… go on a diet regime, hire a personal trainer, workout harder than ever, dye their hair, get nails and lashes… on top of all of the other expenses and preparations happening for months. 



What does all of this money, time and energy spent get you? 


ONE DAY…. 


One day of joy and feeling worthy of being treated like a princess?  POSSIBLY… or it could possibly leave you feeling disappointed because of unrealistic expectations or trying to please others. 


If you had one of the best days of your life filled with joy, fun and love on your wedding day that is wonderful and I am truly happy you received that… 


I digress… 


But whether you agree or disagree with the money invested in weddings it doesn’t really matter. I just want you to think about why?  Why is this a tradition?  Why have wedding celebrations become so valued?  Something that is expected?


Why is it that the same amount of time, finances and energy investment is not a norm for people to invest in having children (unless it is IVF).


What if?

Couples put the kind of effort that is put into wedding planning into having children?


Preparing your body
physically by cleaning out yeast, parasites, balancing your hormones, regulating your cycle, reducing inflammation, clearing out heavy metals and organ damage from medication, and reducing stress.


Energetically healing your mother and father wound so you don’t continue the same toxic cycles for your children.  Releasing stored grief and pain.


Spiritually finding that strong connection with God and trusting the plan— that the soul best aligned for your family will come to you in perfect timing — in God’s timing — not yours.


Could time, money and energy invested in yourself prior to having children
SIGNIFICANTLY increase your chance of having peace, love, joy, and health in your family, your children, future generations, and humanity?


And not just for ONE DAY —


But a
lifetime.  A gift that is passed down from generation to generation.



YOU CAN STOP THE CYCLE OF TRAUMA, OBESITY, DIABETES, CANCER, DEPRESSION, AND ANXIETY IN YOUR FAMILY


I BELIEVE IT’S POSSIBLE


Let's normalize healing our body, mind and spirit before conception --- for our children.  Starting to prepare at least two years before conception is ideal but no time is too late.  Even if you are done having children you can still change the trajectory of future generations while at the same time healing your body and replenishing depletion from pregnancies.



You have the power in your hands 



Check out the link for this Live Online Course:

www.asherahbirth.com/preconception


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